Basic Guide for Care Givers - littles edition

Introduction

The following is a basic guide for anyone who is a caregiver or interested in becoming a care giver to someone who is a little/age regressor – this is by no means an authoritative nor exhaustive guide just some basics to help get a better understanding.

 

Firstly, Age Regression is not Age Play (Kink) – So let’s talk about the specific difference up front.

 

Age Regression is ALWAYS safe for work - there is no sexual activity. 

Age Regression can be either a subconscious action that occurs without warning or intent, it can be as part of Dis-associative Identify Disorder (DID) or it can be used therapeutically in controlled circumstances (Age Dreaming). Whatever the cause or reasons for age regression, it is valid and not everything discussed in this will be applicable to everyone – everything is subjective.

Age Play (Kink) however is different, this is where people role-play different ages in generally sexualised scenes. This doesn’t mean there isn’t cross-over as many age regressors are also in the BDSM/Kink community because the dynamics between Tops/Bottoms and CareGivers/Age Regs are easily transferrable (as you will see below). 

 

This guide is a safe for work guide for Care Givers and those who identify as little/or  age regressors - this can be used either for those who provide care for someone who age regresses because of therapy/trauma etc or for those who engage in age play within their dynamic. 

For anyone who regressors to an older age or perhaps a middle age player, then follow the guide but refer to the age group in which the age regressor/middle is and think about gear/items/rules etc for that specific age group. 

 

Let’s start with some basics:

 

  1. Determine if you want to be a Caregiver

Some individuals already know they want to be one, others stumble into the community in different ways, for example their partner has identified as being a Little and they want to learn more in order to support their partner.

 

  1. Establishing Boundaries as a Caregiver

If you believe being a Caregiver is for you fantastic! Now you need to do some introspection and reflection on what that means for you, this is where identifying your needs, wants and limits are as a Caregiver.  

 

  1. Discuss Both your Needs, Wants and Boundaries

Once you know what your needs, wants and boundaries are, it is important to discuss with your Little/ age regressor what you both what and are comfortable doing while in the dynamic/relationship.

 

This is where you need to set aside a dedicated time to sit and talk with each other about what their needs, wants and boundaries are, what your needs, wants and limits are and ascertain whether the limits of both of your boundaries are. This discussion, it is important to get the details right, and to explicitly discuss any compromises if any. Remember, that needs and wants will change over time as well, so this discussion is not something set in stone for ever, and either of you can initiate this type of discussion again – this is all about communication.

 

  1. Frequency and Setting of the Agereg dynamic

As part of discussions, you need to set up the frequency of the Caregiver/little time as much as possible. While regression can’t always be planned, it is healthy for Littles/age regressors and Caregivers to get into these headspaces regularly, so plan a regularly scheduled time that is convenient for you both.

 

What your Little may need or want

Everyone is different and each Little/age regressor is unique as well. There are however common interests and needs that are found within the Community. Some of these include:

  • Rules: Not every little needs or wants them, but many do. Rules can help offer stability and discipline which helps a Little feel safe and secure.

 

  • Gear: There is a wide variety of stuff that a Little may want or need when in this headspace, it will depend on their regressed age but some items include:
    • Pacifers,
    • Stuffed toys
    • Colouring in books
    • Diapers
    • Onsies
    • Sippy cups
    • Blankets
    • Toys
    • Children’s books
    • Baby bottles
    • Children style clothes
    • And more

 

  • A Caregiver: Surprisingly enough not all Littles need or want a Caregiver. Depending on the regressed age, they may be comfortable enough without having a Caregiver. In these circumstances maybe try a Caregiver role, or “babysit” occasionally.

 

How to Get/Keep a Little in Littlespace

Littlespace can happen independently of a Caregiver, others however may need assistance to get into that headspace for their regression.

 

If a Little needs assistance there can be a range of thing a Caregiver can do to assist:

  • Pick out an outfit for your Little to wear
  • Put on your Little’s favourite littlespace show or movie
  • Make their favourite Littles food
  • Play your Littles favourite Littles games
  • If they enjoy coloring, offer them coloring book

 

REMEMBER: This is not a comprehensive list and cannot possibly cover the myriad of different reasons as to WHY a Little may not be able to immerse themselves in their Littlespace. If your Little needs help, with getting into Littlespace, in your initial discussions you can come up with a list of your own of things that will help.

 

Rules

As mentioned above not all Littles are comfortable, need or want rules, but for those that do, here is a basic idea of how to set rules.

 

Firstly, rules should only exist to support the Little and the Caregiver, they should never overstep either parties boundaries. Therefore it is recommended that a rule list is created for both the Little and the Caregiver.

 

Rules will generally follow these themes:

  • Health and Wellness
    • These rules are to keep everyone healthy both physically and mentally=. They may include things like taking medication, bathing regularly, eating and bedtime routines etc
  • Goals
    • Sometimes these dynamics will bleed into Bigspace, and if it does you can include rules that support each other at your biological ages as well. Such as completing chores or homework before going into CG/Little space.
  • Littlespace-Specific
    • You may have noticed, but a lot of these other rules could apply to Bigs without the need for a dynamic, or may apply to someone who is ALSO in a BDSM dynamic in Bigspace. Despite this Littlespace is still its own thing. Therefore, you can have rules that only apply within Littlespace, for example, your Little might not be able to use the kitchen on their own, or not change their own clothes while in Littlespace, that your little has to ask you before getting a snack or drink.

 

These are just suggestions and it is important that you talk with your Little about Rules and agree on what you both want and need.

 

Some Other Ideas/Tips and Resources

 

Kid-Friendly Games

  • Candyland
  • Go Fish
  • com
  • com/games
  • I Spy (The actual game, not just the make-up-as-you-go one)
  • Guess Who?
  • org/games
  • Pokémon (video game AND trading cards)
  • Operation
  • Battleship
  • Chutes and Ladders
  • Life
  • Jigsaw Puzzles

 

Kid-Friendly Crafts

 

Kid-Friendly Media (TV, YouTube, Music)

  • Cartoon Network
  • Nickelodeon (and Nick Jr.)
  • PBS Kids
  • Disney (and Disney Junior and Disney XD)
  • Kids Section of Netflix
  • TV(a Roku app for kid-safe TV)
  • Boomerang
  • https://www.youtube.com/c/Octonauts

 

Please be mindful of allowing your Little to watch YourTube unsupervised, there are many “kid” listed programs, shows and videos which are unsuitable for children.

 

Kid-Friendly Foods/Recipes

Pre-Made

Note: that these are for making foods more quickly or for those that are not as confident in their cooking skills! Just some ideas:

  • Totino's Pizza Rolls
  • Frozen Pizza
  • Bagel Bites
  • Bird's Eye Veggie Pasta (made of veggies, but still taste's pretty much like regular pasta!)
  • Frozen Nuggets
  • Frozen Meatballs
  • Frozen Seafood
  • Corndogs
  • Pre-made Refrigerated Pasta
  • Frozen Fries/Tater tots
  • Taquitos
  • Frozen French Toast Sticks
  • Macaroons
  • Frozen Smoothie DIY Packs/ Frozen Smoothies
  • Fruit Popsicles
  • Individual Ice Cream Cups
  • Ice Cream Sandwiches
  • Mini Ice Cream Cones
  • Pre-made Cookie Dough (Make cookies and decorate them with your Little!)
  • Mozzarella Sticks
  • Green Giant Veggie Tots
  • Green Giant Veggies Fries
  • Green Giant Veggies Hash Browns
  • Bird's Eye Shredded Veggies (good to mix with shredded hashbrowns and get more nutrients!)
  • Bird's Eye Veggie Swaps
  • Bird's Eye Veggie Meals

 

Recipes

Easy

 

Intermediate

 

Advanced

 

Kid-Friendly Books

 

Basic Supply List

This is just a basic supply lists to help Caregivers get started with what items they will need for their Littles. Again, as always talk about gear and supplies that your Littles needs with them, but always good to have items for “just-in-case”.

  • First-Aid Kit
  • Wet wipes for surfaces (ex: Lysol)
  • Fun band-aids!
  • Hot water bottles
  • Ice packs
  • Blankets
  • Pillows
  • Stuffed Animals
  • Blank Paper (Like printer paper)
  • Coloring Pencils
  • Markers
  • Crayons
  • Stickers
  • Pacifiers
  • Teethers
  • Bottles
  • Sippy Cups
  • Kid flatware and dinnerware
  • Towels (for spills and/or accidents)

 

Baby and Diaper Extra Supplies

  • Diapers
  • Bed Pads
  • Powder (NOT Talcum, I believe Rearz has a safe one)
  • Wet wipes for humans (ex: Pampers)

 

There are some good resource groups as well with more information on Reddit: 

Posted in Relationships on January 23 2023 at 03:48 PM
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