For me... and this sounds so ridiculous now, but still being a child essentially when I was first introduced into the world of BDSM, I didn't take responsibility for my own personal safety.
Whether it was false assumptions about responsibility in power exchanges and dynamics, but not questioning what I was being told, not doing my own research etc ended up leaving me vulnerable to predators and grooming.
Instead of taking responsibility for my own safety and doing my own research, asking questions trying to find others in the lifestyle, I ended up hurt.
I think a lot of newcomers regardless of age, may have the misconception, especially if they are a bottom/submissive that safety and specifically their safety isn't just in the hands of the Top/Dominant, just because the power play has them "in control". Everyone involved has the responsibility when it comes to safety.
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